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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2016 3:17:10 GMT
this thread is for all things related to psychology, psychiatry and the like. whether it be articles, or discussions on things related to psychological or philosophical phenomena, it is all welcome here. hell, even share some of your stories about your social awkwardness!
i'll start the thread by asking this question: if you had to have one word or phrase describe your life's motto, what would it be?
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Post by SugarHill on Jun 8, 2016 5:20:52 GMT
Let's get this shit start. pseudo-science!
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Post by bladefd on Jun 8, 2016 6:38:09 GMT
My life motto..
"Hope. Inspire. Dream. Live."
I will get back to you on social awkwardness stories. I have many but I don't want to share them all. I will post a few later.
Good topic subject, btw!
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Post by Hellfire Missile Pack on Jun 8, 2016 6:52:23 GMT
this thread is for all things related to psychology, psychiatry and the like. whether it be articles, or discussions on things related to psychological or philosophical phenomena, it is all welcome here. hell, even share some of your stories about your social awkwardness! i'll start the thread by asking this question: if you had to have one word or phrase describe your life's motto, what would it be?Life motto? "Meh" |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2016 1:00:12 GMT
My life motto.. "Hope. Inspire. Dream. Live." I will get back to you on social awkwardness stories. I have many but I don't want to share them all. I will post a few later. Good topic subject, btw! thanks for contributing what makes "Hope. Inspire. Dream. Live." your creed? and how does it shape the principles that u live by? |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2016 1:00:53 GMT
this thread is for all things related to psychology, psychiatry and the like. whether it be articles, or discussions on things related to psychological or philosophical phenomena, it is all welcome here. hell, even share some of your stories about your social awkwardness! i'll start the thread by asking this question: if you had to have one word or phrase describe your life's motto, what would it be?Life motto? "Meh" interesting. why so "meh" bot? |
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Post by Hellfire Missile Pack on Jun 9, 2016 1:20:03 GMT
interesting. why so "meh" bot? Just living to live. Doing nothing extraordinary but not living like life is on the line. Same routine stuff happening daily. Pretty much a good number of things i feel is average or indifferent |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2016 1:42:46 GMT
interesting. why so "meh" bot? Just living to live. Doing nothing extraordinary but not living like life is on the line. Same routine stuff happening daily. Pretty much a good number of things i feel is average or indifferent i feel u. i'm the same way. i don't believe life has any intrinsic purpose so i don't go above and beyond just for the sake of itself. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2016 3:01:45 GMT
does anyone else have a real problem asking for help with anything? it's almost impossible for me to ask for help in anything. even if it's something i'm not good enough to do on my own, i'd rather risk fucking up (which i also hate) than asking someone to help me. i guess i feel like it makes me seem weak and incapable. i love total independence, in all facets of life. financial, mental, emotional, etc. i feel like u should be self-sufficient in all of those areas and if u need someone else it's because ur weak
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Post by bladefd on Jun 9, 2016 6:46:33 GMT
My life motto.. "Hope. Inspire. Dream. Live." I will get back to you on social awkwardness stories. I have many but I don't want to share them all. I will post a few later. Good topic subject, btw! thanks for contributing what makes "Hope. Inspire. Dream. Live." your creed? and how does it shape the principles that u live by? I went into more details here.. about why those terms matter to me. Halfway down theopening post. It should answer your questions. thenewbte.boards.net/thread/200/meaning-lifeHow does it shape my principles.. hmmm.. truth is we all need meaning in life. We need something to live for. After all, we must hold onto our humanity. We are all thinking beings seeking understanding in the vastness of the cosmos. If we get stuck in being mesmerized by the universe for too long, time will just fly by and we will be lying in death bed with nothing but regrets. We have to hope tomorrow will be a better day, we have to inspire others in whatever way we can, we must dream (not just dream while sleeping but dream with our eyes open), we must live our lives by trying to fulfill as many dreams as possible. We will lose all of our possessions and family, friends, people who we love when we die. You take nothing with you to the grave so enjoy what time you do have. That is essentially my #1 principle in life. Everything else falls into line behind that. |
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Post by bladefd on Jun 9, 2016 6:57:35 GMT
does anyone else have a real problem asking for help with anything? it's almost impossible for me to ask for help in anything. even if it's something i'm not good enough to do on my own, i'd rather risk fucking up (which i also hate) than asking someone to help me. i guess i feel like it makes me seem weak and incapable. i love total independence, in all facets of life. financial, mental, emotional, etc. i feel like u should be self-sufficient in all of those areas and if u need someone else it's because ur weak I am the same way. It's independence. You don't want to rely on others. Unless if you do it yourself, you don't truly appreciate it. To some degree, it is ego-driven. You must find a way to balance it. It is never wrong or weak-minded to ask others for help in life. Don't worry, I have a hard time following my own advice because I want to make my own path through life, almost like a trailblazer. I would be lying if I said there is no ego involved. Just don't ever think you are weak or incapable for asking others for advise/assistance/help. As long as you don't exploit others for your own benefit and are selfless yourself, people will not mind helping you. Ever watch Jerry Maguire? Reminds me of what Jerry told his client: "Help me help you!" We help each other in life. If we are not there for the other person and if the other person is not there for us, then nobody is there for anybody. I probably sound cliche as fuck here, but it is true in life! We have to be there for each other in times of need. As long as you are not trying to exploit or use the other person. Again, too often I deviate from this myself. Not always easy to follow your own advice  |
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Post by Hellfire Missile Pack on Jun 9, 2016 8:14:02 GMT
does anyone else have a real problem asking for help with anything? it's almost impossible for me to ask for help in anything. even if it's something i'm not good enough to do on my own, i'd rather risk fucking up (which i also hate) than asking someone to help me. i guess i feel like it makes me seem weak and incapable. i love total independence, in all facets of life. financial, mental, emotional, etc. i feel like u should be self-sufficient in all of those areas and if u need someone else it's because ur weak If it's work related, then i try to eliminate all the stupid shit that i might have missed before going to help. Even then it's rare In terms of chores/repair stuff, i will only ask help if it requires more than one man or something i would later regret doing myself If it's something like directions. I ask right away. I ain't fucking wasting my time guessing, but with technology, i can figure that shit out by myself anyways |
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Post by Bob on Jun 22, 2016 7:32:10 GMT
i thought this was about the talking heads...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2016 13:56:14 GMT
Let's get this shit start. pseudo-science! First smart thing this man has ever said |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2016 13:58:05 GMT
does anyone else have a real problem asking for help with anything? it's almost impossible for me to ask for help in anything. even if it's something i'm not good enough to do on my own, i'd rather risk fucking up (which i also hate) than asking someone to help me. i guess i feel like it makes me seem weak and incapable. i love total independence, in all facets of life. financial, mental, emotional, etc. i feel like u should be self-sufficient in all of those areas and if u need someone else it's because ur weak I feel u here, I rarely ask for help. I try to solve my own shit and if not I see it as a learning experience. Trial and error is the best way to learn. Wheter it be financially, with girls, tech stuff and everything else in life practically. |
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Post by bladefd on Oct 24, 2016 8:13:28 GMT
Is there anything positive about being a man of few words? I was at a family gathering and I just wasn't sure what to say. I felt like a moron. I had many thoughts running through my mind, but I just dunno how to communicate what I am thinking. I rarely talk tbh, but it makes others feel awkward. Others feeling awkward makes me feel awkward.
I don't like to talk for the sake of talking or to simply gossip bs. I don't gossip and I only like to talk when I have something to say rather than to say something just to talk (I hope you understand what I mean)..
Friend of mine once told me there is nothing wrong with being a man of few words, and I am too self-conscious. It is a bit frustrating though when everyone can talk naturally and take discussion from topic to topic. I guess I am a man of many thoughts and ideas but few words. It feels different on message boards like here because I am not talking to anyone directly but through text.
I dunno.. It used to be due to lack of confidence but now I am starting to realize it may be my personality. I don't lack self-confidence like I used to. I am literally a man of few words AND solo drifter personality. I am off to myself. I remember girls used to try to talk to me, but once they realized that I am more solo and distant, they would just move on. Even if a girl or anyone messages me or posts on my Facebook, I always respond bc it is not kind to ignore people, but I just let the convo die off. I guess people expect me to gossip..
Man of few words + thinker + solo + introvert + distant = dangerous combo for keeping friendships and being close with others. Literally I am the sort of personality and person best left off alone.
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Post by Lampz on Oct 24, 2016 17:08:52 GMT
Is there anything positive about being a man of few words? I was at a family gathering and I just wasn't sure what to say. I felt like a moron. I had many thoughts running through my mind, but I just dunno how to communicate what I am thinking. I rarely talk tbh, but it makes others feel awkward. Others feeling awkward makes me feel awkward. I don't like to talk for the sake of talking or to simply gossip bs. I don't gossip and I only like to talk when I have something to say rather than to say something just to talk (I hope you understand what I mean).. Friend of mine once told me there is nothing wrong with being a man of few words, and I am too self-conscious. It is a bit frustrating though when everyone can talk naturally and take discussion from topic to topic. I guess I am a man of many thoughts and ideas but few words. It feels different on message boards like here because I am not talking to anyone directly but through text. I dunno.. It used to be due to lack of confidence but now I am starting to realize it may be my personality. I don't lack self-confidence like I used to. I am literally a man of few words AND solo drifter personality. I am off to myself. I remember girls used to try to talk to me, but once they realized that I am more solo and distant, they would just move on. Even if a girl or anyone messages me or posts on my Facebook, I always respond bc it is not kind to ignore people, but I just let the convo die off. I guess people expect me to gossip.. Man of few words + thinker + solo + introvert + distant = dangerous combo for keeping friendships and being close with others. Literally I am the sort of personality and person best left off alone. imagine yourself going out into those situations, contacting and talking to people u dont really know it's pretty nerve-wracking trying to meet and talk with new people, but if i were to talk to someone and they never do the same or want to talk back, i feel like they dont want to be friends im not an expert on the subject, ask SugarHill with his ghey psychology degree, but im pretty much the same as u and im trying to improve on that by opening my mouth more once in a while and stop expecting everyone to come to me rather than the other way around, it's already helping a lot a friendship is a shared thing, u cant expect ur friend(s) or even someone else in a converation to be carrying all the burden... that's a lesson ive learned |
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Post by Lampz on Oct 24, 2016 17:09:18 GMT
my life motto is "fuck bitches and make €€€" btw
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Post by bladefd on Oct 24, 2016 21:13:28 GMT
Is there anything positive about being a man of few words? I was at a family gathering and I just wasn't sure what to say. I felt like a moron. I had many thoughts running through my mind, but I just dunno how to communicate what I am thinking. I rarely talk tbh, but it makes others feel awkward. Others feeling awkward makes me feel awkward. I don't like to talk for the sake of talking or to simply gossip bs. I don't gossip and I only like to talk when I have something to say rather than to say something just to talk (I hope you understand what I mean).. Friend of mine once told me there is nothing wrong with being a man of few words, and I am too self-conscious. It is a bit frustrating though when everyone can talk naturally and take discussion from topic to topic. I guess I am a man of many thoughts and ideas but few words. It feels different on message boards like here because I am not talking to anyone directly but through text. I dunno.. It used to be due to lack of confidence but now I am starting to realize it may be my personality. I don't lack self-confidence like I used to. I am literally a man of few words AND solo drifter personality. I am off to myself. I remember girls used to try to talk to me, but once they realized that I am more solo and distant, they would just move on. Even if a girl or anyone messages me or posts on my Facebook, I always respond bc it is not kind to ignore people, but I just let the convo die off. I guess people expect me to gossip.. Man of few words + thinker + solo + introvert + distant = dangerous combo for keeping friendships and being close with others. Literally I am the sort of personality and person best left off alone. imagine yourself going out into those situations, contacting and talking to people u dont really know it's pretty nerve-wracking trying to meet and talk with new people, but if i were to talk to someone and they never do the same or want to talk back, i feel like they dont want to be friends im not an expert on the subject, ask SugarHill with his ghey psychology degree, but im pretty much the same as u and im trying to improve on that by opening my mouth more once in a while and stop expecting everyone to come to me rather than the other way around, it's already helping a lot a friendship is a shared thing, u cant expect ur friend(s) or even someone else in a converation to be carrying all the burden... that's a lesson ive learnedYou are correct. That may be why I don't have many friends, and friends realize they won't get a conversation in return. Couple of my friends only communicate with me in text or facebook messenger because they probably realize they will get better answers that way than calling me up on the phone or even meeting me in person. I do listen and I do care, but I just respond verbally with short replies to the point, but in writing I tend to be thorough. When I'm writing, I do get fairly descriptive as you have probably already seen in stories/blog but not when I'm talking.  I noticed extroverts tend to be natural at starting up convos and continuing them, but as an introvert, you are already at a disadvantage. Mainly because you're so invested inwards that opening outwards is difficult. Extroverts are exact opposite. They are so invested outwards that they don't tend to be into nerd hobbies like star trek and truly don't tend to be good at things that require looking inside or critically self-reflecting like philosophy. I dunno. I mean I can't force myself to be somebody I'm not. I won't become extrovert or just instantly start conversing normally lol. I guess 1 of the advantages is people listen when you talk bc you only talk when you have something to say . When you say things just for the sake of talking & talk talk talk talk, people will get sick of you after a while. When you are the latter, people tend to cut you off or simply be rude - I have observed that in actual conversations. When you are the former, people listen intently when you have something to say. I would prefer a middle-ground though! |
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Post by bladefd on Oct 24, 2016 21:27:10 GMT
my life motto is "fuck bitches and make €€€" btw Haha! That's my boy   On a serious note, it sounds cool until you see the real-world, my friend! Sure, you can do it, but the quality drops off fast into your late 20s. Unless if you start banging much younger bishes like hugh hefner does but the old man always had money  As for making money, you never told me what you want to major in college or do after highschool, buddy! Figure that out or at least think of 5-6 choices for major before you finish highschool =] |
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Post by Lampz on Oct 24, 2016 22:38:46 GMT
my life motto is "fuck bitches and make €€€" btw Haha! That's my boy On a serious note, it sounds cool until you see the real-world, my friend! Sure, you can do it, but the quality drops off fast into your late 20s. Unless if you start banging much younger bishes like hugh hefner does but the old man always had money As for making money, you never told me what you want to major in college or do after highschool, buddy! Figure that out or at least think of 5-6 choices for major before you finish highschool =] it's hard because u speak american education system talk |
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Post by bladefd on Oct 24, 2016 23:08:28 GMT
Haha! That's my boy On a serious note, it sounds cool until you see the real-world, my friend! Sure, you can do it, but the quality drops off fast into your late 20s. Unless if you start banging much younger bishes like hugh hefner does but the old man always had money As for making money, you never told me what you want to major in college or do after highschool, buddy! Figure that out or at least think of 5-6 choices for major before you finish highschool =] it's hard because u speak american education system talk What you talking about? College education in America is the best in the world, my friend. It is k-12 education that is not doing too well compared to rest of the world. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2016 3:01:56 GMT
imagine yourself going out into those situations, contacting and talking to people u dont really know it's pretty nerve-wracking trying to meet and talk with new people, but if i were to talk to someone and they never do the same or want to talk back, i feel like they dont want to be friends im not an expert on the subject, ask SugarHill with his ghey psychology degree, but im pretty much the same as u and im trying to improve on that by opening my mouth more once in a while and stop expecting everyone to come to me rather than the other way around, it's already helping a lot a friendship is a shared thing, u cant expect ur friend(s) or even someone else in a converation to be carrying all the burden... that's a lesson ive learnedYou are correct. That may be why I don't have many friends, and friends realize they won't get a conversation in return. Couple of my friends only communicate with me in text or facebook messenger because they probably realize they will get better answers that way than calling me up on the phone or even meeting me in person. I do listen and I do care, but I just respond verbally with short replies to the point, but in writing I tend to be thorough. When I'm writing, I do get fairly descriptive as you have probably already seen in stories/blog but not when I'm talking. I noticed extroverts tend to be natural at starting up convos and continuing them, but as an introvert, you are already at a disadvantage. Mainly because you're so invested inwards that opening outwards is difficult. Extroverts are exact opposite. They are so invested outwards that they don't tend to be into nerd hobbies like star trek and truly don't tend to be good at things that require looking inside or critically self-reflecting like philosophy. I dunno. I mean I can't force myself to be somebody I'm not. I won't become extrovert or just instantly start conversing normally lol. I guess 1 of the advantages is people listen when you talk bc you only talk when you have something to say . When you say things just for the sake of talking & talk talk talk talk, people will get sick of you after a while. When you are the latter, people tend to cut you off or simply be rude - I have observed that in actual conversations. When you are the former, people listen intently when you have something to say. I would prefer a middle-ground though! introversion and extroversion aren't black and white, it's a spectrum. u just have to learn how to function. naturally, i like to keep to myself but i can be gregarious when the situation calls. it's just that after a while that gets draining and i want to chill by myself and do my own thing. another thing as a more introverted person is that ur in ur head a lot. what i mean that u over-analyze everything and everyone. u have to reach that place of peace where u really don't give a fuck. it helps out tremendously. i know the "be urself" advice is cliche and shitty, but what i take it to mean is that ur at peace with urself so ur not concerned with whether or not people fuck with u. |
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